Big Screen Romance

Love Stories;

In the end love is all were ever worried about.

When were single, were are looking for prince charming.

When we have found him we are doing everything in our

power to keep him.

But no matter how hard we try our love

never measures up to the love on screen, 

in movies.

Subconsciously we have made ourselves believe that 

we need a big screen romance in our lives 

in order to call it true love.

This is nonsense.

There is no such thing.

The writers of these movies, and even novels

do not even live these "so called " love lives.

They are movies, fiction, books

for us to read, fall in love with their love story.

Suck you in and leave you wanting more

so that you will go see the movie again, buy it when it comes

out on DVD or vise verse with a book.

Details.

Most of these movies we as, hopeless romantic woman-

wish our lives could be are not what we want at all.

For example take any Nicholas Sparks story , 

I am a huge fan so it is not that I am bashing his work..

I am just being realistic here, its what writers do.

All of Nicholas story's are set on or near a beach, the perfect

romance setting. Less than half of Americana's actually live on the beach.

Most of his stories require the main character to commit 

adultery. Do you really want that for yourself?

Then again what kind of ratings would a movie or book get

if it described the perfect, faithful marriage the bible instructs us to have..

it wouldn't probably even receive one star.

Which is sad, to me.

As you all know I am getting married this fall, 

so family is heavy on my mind. & It worries me 

to bring a beautiful, pure, human being

into this messed up world.

I  think the media has

a heavier impact on our lives than we think it does.

I am a huge believe in the law of attraction.

which basically means, you get what you put out. 

So by watching these types of love stories, these

are the situations we are creating for ourselves.

Adultery, Lust, Lies.

I think people get so caught up in the chemistry and

feelings of the characters and forget that they are actors.

Their love is not real. It is written and well acted out.

I myself am one of these people, so I am right

there with you fighting this battle.

If your able to read between the lines you would have realized by now, 

this blog is deeper than a love story on screen.

More than the notebook or any lifetime movie.

Its about creating a life of your own.

Not basing it on someone else or something

you've seen in a movie.

It's about making your own path and not following.

It is another step to being happy,

& letting what is meant to be, be.

Not forcing the wrong puzzle pieces 

where they are not supposed to be,

because in the end- they always shatter apart from all the 

tension, once released. 

Happiness is not handed to you on a gold platter

Happiness.

In my previous blog I mentioned that I actually know what

this word means, because I feel so little really do.

Most think its true love with your significant other,

shallow people believe money is the root of all happiness.

To me it's deeper than that.

Yes the love of your life will make you happy.

But may not be your complete definition of happiness.

You have to be happy with who you are , yourself

before you can be happy with someone else.

Soul searching.

Is what I am referring to,

this weekend has opened my eyes to many 

females in my life that have not done this. 

some are young, some are not.

I am blessed that at 22 years old I know exactly who I am.

& what I want out of life.

Others are not as fortunate.

Not because they don't want to be or they can't be

I myself believe that it's because they do not know how.

So my advice, which I should have taken myself many years sooner, 

is to be single.

You can not discover yourself when your wrapped up in someone else. 

Even dating around, means your taken.

Your thoughts are focused on someone else more than yourself.

Your worried about what he or she is doing, not what your

thinking, feeling, or dreaming of.

Next you need to pamper yourself.

Whatever that means to you.

I'm sure what pops into mind when someone says the word pamper is

" a spa like experience "

anything from- nails, hair, massages & so forth.

But it can be as simple staying in one night and reading a good book.

As you know I'd prefer to stay in anytime :) 

But just doing things for yourself, to me, describes the word pamper.

& Lastly you need to look at the bigger picture and find your spiritual self.

Again, whatever that means to you. Rather it's God, or another religion.

Or even just focusing on energy . Being positive instead of negative. 

Just shifting your thoughts daily can be life altering.

You will find yourself the more you focus on yourself.

I am very close to these females I have mentioned. 

I hope they read this and don't do as I would if 

I were the reader, not the writer. 

I am the type that always has to learn lessons the hard way.

I just hope these amazing women, one in particular, finds herself sooner

rather than later because as woman we deserve the world. 

My spiritual self lives within God, 

which to me goes with positive energy.

I believe the for me HE is my higher power. 

He has shown me that everything happens for a reason, 

and that there is always happiness within him.

But i had to find it within myself before I could even see it within him.

So I challenge you this week, 

dedicate one night to yourself.

Do something for you.

Stop being a mother or a father, a care take,

a work-a-holic or even an alcoholic for just one night.

And do something to make your self happy.

Until Next time ; 

Peace, LOve & Happiness 

The Girl Behind The Blog

 Myself. 

To me there is not much to say. 

I should probably have someone else write this portion for me. 

Someone who knows me well, or even better than myself. 

That selection wouldn't be hard to make I can only count my true friends on one hand,

 one is my mother & the other my fiance. 

I feel that the people you surround yourself with 

are the best description of who you are. 

So lets start there. 

I will begin with my mother. 

You would call her Barb if you knew her personally.

She is my hero.

 Most people say that, I actually mean it.

From day one, literally 

she has dedicated her life to me & making it worth living. 

Not because she had to, because she wanted to.

I am not one myself, but I know for a fact once you are a mother or a father 

life as you know it changes.

 It revolves around your child. And she has never failed at that.

My memories with her are as early as dancing on the coffee table with a hairbrush mic in my hand

screaming the lyrics to any garth brooks song

 on surround sound before bed, trying to take both our minds;

hers more than mine, off the fact that it was almost 10 pm and my father still wasnt home.

He was probably at who knows what bar, doing who knows what, with who knows who.

To driving me all over 3-4 times a week to cheerleading events, 

& even more recent 

just calling each other to talk for 30 mins to catch up on the past week

since I no longer live under her roof.

She is my best friend. She always did what was best for us, for me.

I want to be the mom she was to me someday.

She , like everyone made mistakes and lived another lifestlye in her younger years

she was always open with me & told me her stories from the start

which made her the most amazing part of my life. 

She molded me into the open, 

understanding, listening, non-judgemental person I am today.

As for my fiance, Levi - yes like the jeans - goes. He is also my best friend. 

But in a different way. 

There are so many kinds of love in this world. & he almost fufills them all for me.

He is such a care taker, which one would have to be- to be a nurse. 

He is the most responsible person I know and has a very level head on his shoulders.

Though we met only over a year ago on a dating website,

I speak for the both of us when I say we feel like we have known each other are entire life. 

I could go on for hours with how we feel about one another;

but that is for us to know only.

Were engaged & getting married this Septmember, that tells you enough.

[[ 9.10.11 ]]

I like to think someday I will be these two people combined.

I would call it "near perfection".

Since nothing on this earth is perfect.

There are many layers to me. 

Some, most people never see.

I like it that way, I perfer it that way. 

But the layers I will allow you to read 

arent what you would expect if you saw me.

First impessions people have of me, 

always make me giggle, just a little.

The are typical, stero typical that is.

Blonde hair, blue eyes, perky, 

always smiling, bubly bimbo;

is what I get most of.

Yes that may be my hair & eye color. 

And I love my teeth that my parents paid thousands of

dollars to have straighten, 

so i am going to show them off,

 besides I have no reason not to smile.

[[ I'm alive. ]]

-- I'm healthy. -- 

*I'm happy & i actually know what that word even means.*

I dont drink.

I wont party.

I hate bars, clubs, or anywhere that requires and I.D.

I love my apartment, my bed, my dvr, my mac book, texting, 

my cat named Miley- yes after cyrus. - I love to stay at home, alone & read or watch movies 

on netflix. I have started to write probably ten books in my life & haven't finished a single one.

Therefore my purpose of this blog is to get all of those mini books into the world somehow.

This is my new escape. I believe everyone should have one.

As much as this blog is mine, its not about me.

It's about you, my readers, my followers.

I am not going to write daily. 

I am not going to document everything I do each day 

from what I eat to who I see & what I thought. 

I'm going after the carrie bradshaw, minus all the sex talk.

I want to inspire.

Growing up in the Paul Mitchell Cosmetology world

the word insprie is used ofetn. They are always asking us

"What inspires you?" and trying to get us to move toward & focus on a goal

to acheive. Therefore I can't inspire those whom I dont know, 

or know what they need from me.

So tell me, What inspires you ?

As Lady Antebellum would say, Hello World.

This is new, this is different. 

This seems like it wold be fun for me. 

I am not sure how this will go over or how long my followers will last . 

I mean in all reality it would be amazing to have a billion followers, make a name for myself

& help people all over the world over time. Or better yet I could make it big overnight like some youtube sensasion.

I love to write, hince why I'm writing. It has always been in my bones. For as long as I could remember. And It always gave me confidence. Some things as a child you think your good at and you fish for others approval, wanting to hear " wow that was amazing ! " or " your so awesome I wish I could do that ! " Not me, I guess I was cockey in a sense, that I knew I was given a gift. A gift to write. Im better with my words this way. 

In relationships when an issue would arise I would turn to the classic pen & paper to put my worries to rest. I have written countless love letters, some were never even mailed. Just written for the sake of writting, to get it all out, onto paper.

Isnt that the point of writing? Not so much that you want to say the things your thinking or else you would have spoken them or in this day an age texted them. But writing means so much more ; Its personal. Its intimate. It can be felt. 

Take those who are over seas for instance. They cant hear their loved ones voices, they can't be expecting a text from them; or a facebook chat to pop up. They rely on mail. Actual letters. And to me, being the helpless romantic that I am , its very romantic to think if i was that man or woman over seas & when i would recieve a letter, knowing my loved one held that piece of paper, sat in front of it and thought only but of me. Then it traveled millions of miles to my arms, as i would wish they could. That would mean more than this silly blog .

So invision this followers, I am writing to each one of you, I personally am writing to reach out and help each one of you. 

I can't wait to see where this journey takes me.

& I hope your all along for the ride.

More to come tomorrow, mostly about myself. 

So that you are able to get to know the girl behind the blog, me that is.