Officially off the market.

Every one says that their wedding is the best day of their life.

i would have to disagree. 

for me;

 it has been every day after the wedding...

marriage life is nothing like what i expected. 

its better, full of warmth , support & love.

i was thinking up until the night before

" what can a piece of paper really change ? "

it has nothing to do with a 

piece of paper saying we are legally 

binded together forever. 

it has everything to do

 with the commitment we 

made to each other, 

the friends & family 

that were there to witness

& god himself. 

even if you are in a relationship 

where there are no doubts,

and there are no trust issues,

 & everything seems perfect..

( like my relationship did )

once you get married;

the little to no doubt that was there - vanishes. 

the trust issues turn into trustworthy. 

it is so beautiful 

& i now know why 

everyone was given a soul mate. 

so we can all embark 

on gods greatest gift - marriage. 

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with the support of my husband now, 

he is pushing me

to follow my dreams. 

one of my dreams 

has always been to publish a book.

& now that the wedding planning , 

and honeymoon has come to an end

and all has settled down 

you; 

- my bloggers - 

are going to be my first readers to

select chapters from my book. 

its called 

betrayed to beloved.

Its a fictional novel,

 based on my love story & 

the journey it's been :) 

all the truth, 

the lies, 

and the lust in between .

so stay tuned & 

invite your friends to the blog,

to read along.

Chicago, Chanel & Chaotic drivers- Oh my!

Chicago, IL.

The city that keeps stealing 

little pieces of my heart 

one visit at a time.

Doesn't matter the reason I visit, 

or even how long my stay is. 

Each time i cross that bridge I feel like I'm home.

Most of the time when you travel, by the end of the trip

you are ready to go home, your ready to check out,

your done being where you've been.

Never the case with chicago. 

I always just wish I had one more day, 

that I could see one more thing, that I could

go to one more store or eat at one more amazing place.

They say home is where the heart is.. 

and tonight when I leave this city half my heart will stay here

while the other half rides beside me on the bus.

So I have to ask myself, what is stopping me?

Why have I not taken that extra step and applied for jobs, 

or toured lofts?

Because trust me, I have googled my paul mitchell options 

& looked at hundreds of apartments online.

But why have I stopped there?

I believe its because my values that put my family and 

friends before my own wants & needs are keeping me in Ohio.

& when it is all said and done, I know that they will keep me happier than any

busy city ever could.

I have the most amazing supposrt system thanks to both familes.

biological & paul mitchell. 

I know they all would support me on my journey and help

me any way they could. But I could never leave them.

So when they all decided to stuff themselves in my suitcase, or 

buy a one way bus ticket with me I will then live in the city i love.

Until then, I will live & surround myself with the people I love.

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How do you know when he is the one..

Everyone always asks themselves

or someone else.

How do you know he or she was the one?

Its not like God puts a big sign over that persons head

saying " you will marry me "

No love or no one is perfect.

So if perfection is what your looking for 

your never going to stop looking.

It's has more to do with what they will do for you

than who they are.

Its all about how the two of you work together, 

and how your values match up, in my eyes. 

I'm different, or shall I say pickier than most.

Growing up with my father being an alcoholic -

I give myself the right to brag by saying I choose the opposite path that most in 

my situation would. I steered clear of drinking. Most would following in ones footsteps.

I knew from the time I was 10 that I didn't want alcohol to be apart of my life 

or my family when I had my own one day because I say what it did to mine.  

Tore us apart. 

I wanted to be a better parent, I wanted to be strong like my mother was. 

So I never dated those who drank, & if I did it wasn't for long. 

I have always been a long term relationship girl. my shortest relationship was 8 months. and that

was in the 8th grade. I am that girl that has dreamt of her fairy tale wedding since day one.

At twenty two I realize it will be no fairy tale, and life is not like a Disney movie.

But I knew that Levi was the one the day we met .

Like I said in my first blog I am not going into all the details of our relationship. 

But I get the " how did you know " question all the time, 

especially since we met on a dating website. 

So i thought I would take this time to tell my reasoning.

We both know what drinking does, we both didn't want it in our life.

We both believe in Jesus Christ & attend church. 

We both wanted a small family. We both had dreams and careers in our near future.

Together we are better.

We bring out the best in one another.

We have been a long distance relationship most of the time 

& we have stayed strong the entire time.

We have been threw alot together and have never let one another down.

We are not perfect, we have had fall outs like every other couple.

But we know how to fix things in a mature, non yelling or fighting matter.

So to sum it up in one sentence -

I knew Levi was the one I was going to marry because

I instantly loved him and we had the same beliefs and values.

Both which I believe are crucial to building a life together. 

A life worth living anyways. 

So don't be cliche.

Don't be typical.

Be different, be yourself & your

going to find your soul mate.

& remember it is not always about the things you have in common, 

Its always about the things you will do for one another. 

For example.

Last night Levi and I went to my favorite, his least favorite singers concert. 

Jason Aldean to be exact.

& it made me fall in love with him all over again, I kept telling him that all night long.

Now I am going to tell you why.

Love is about compromise. 

Yes it would have been nice if Levi loved Jason Aldean as much as I did 

and we shared that common bond. 

But it meant more to me that we didn't and he went anyways.

He sat threw all the twang & cowboy boots, flannel shirts &

beer drinking, scoll ring sitting stadium filled of hicks. 

Just for me. 

& to me ; this is the meaning of true love. 

a love worth combining in marriage. 

Big Screen Romance

Love Stories;

In the end love is all were ever worried about.

When were single, were are looking for prince charming.

When we have found him we are doing everything in our

power to keep him.

But no matter how hard we try our love

never measures up to the love on screen, 

in movies.

Subconsciously we have made ourselves believe that 

we need a big screen romance in our lives 

in order to call it true love.

This is nonsense.

There is no such thing.

The writers of these movies, and even novels

do not even live these "so called " love lives.

They are movies, fiction, books

for us to read, fall in love with their love story.

Suck you in and leave you wanting more

so that you will go see the movie again, buy it when it comes

out on DVD or vise verse with a book.

Details.

Most of these movies we as, hopeless romantic woman-

wish our lives could be are not what we want at all.

For example take any Nicholas Sparks story , 

I am a huge fan so it is not that I am bashing his work..

I am just being realistic here, its what writers do.

All of Nicholas story's are set on or near a beach, the perfect

romance setting. Less than half of Americana's actually live on the beach.

Most of his stories require the main character to commit 

adultery. Do you really want that for yourself?

Then again what kind of ratings would a movie or book get

if it described the perfect, faithful marriage the bible instructs us to have..

it wouldn't probably even receive one star.

Which is sad, to me.

As you all know I am getting married this fall, 

so family is heavy on my mind. & It worries me 

to bring a beautiful, pure, human being

into this messed up world.

I  think the media has

a heavier impact on our lives than we think it does.

I am a huge believe in the law of attraction.

which basically means, you get what you put out. 

So by watching these types of love stories, these

are the situations we are creating for ourselves.

Adultery, Lust, Lies.

I think people get so caught up in the chemistry and

feelings of the characters and forget that they are actors.

Their love is not real. It is written and well acted out.

I myself am one of these people, so I am right

there with you fighting this battle.

If your able to read between the lines you would have realized by now, 

this blog is deeper than a love story on screen.

More than the notebook or any lifetime movie.

Its about creating a life of your own.

Not basing it on someone else or something

you've seen in a movie.

It's about making your own path and not following.

It is another step to being happy,

& letting what is meant to be, be.

Not forcing the wrong puzzle pieces 

where they are not supposed to be,

because in the end- they always shatter apart from all the 

tension, once released. 

Happiness is not handed to you on a gold platter

Happiness.

In my previous blog I mentioned that I actually know what

this word means, because I feel so little really do.

Most think its true love with your significant other,

shallow people believe money is the root of all happiness.

To me it's deeper than that.

Yes the love of your life will make you happy.

But may not be your complete definition of happiness.

You have to be happy with who you are , yourself

before you can be happy with someone else.

Soul searching.

Is what I am referring to,

this weekend has opened my eyes to many 

females in my life that have not done this. 

some are young, some are not.

I am blessed that at 22 years old I know exactly who I am.

& what I want out of life.

Others are not as fortunate.

Not because they don't want to be or they can't be

I myself believe that it's because they do not know how.

So my advice, which I should have taken myself many years sooner, 

is to be single.

You can not discover yourself when your wrapped up in someone else. 

Even dating around, means your taken.

Your thoughts are focused on someone else more than yourself.

Your worried about what he or she is doing, not what your

thinking, feeling, or dreaming of.

Next you need to pamper yourself.

Whatever that means to you.

I'm sure what pops into mind when someone says the word pamper is

" a spa like experience "

anything from- nails, hair, massages & so forth.

But it can be as simple staying in one night and reading a good book.

As you know I'd prefer to stay in anytime :) 

But just doing things for yourself, to me, describes the word pamper.

& Lastly you need to look at the bigger picture and find your spiritual self.

Again, whatever that means to you. Rather it's God, or another religion.

Or even just focusing on energy . Being positive instead of negative. 

Just shifting your thoughts daily can be life altering.

You will find yourself the more you focus on yourself.

I am very close to these females I have mentioned. 

I hope they read this and don't do as I would if 

I were the reader, not the writer. 

I am the type that always has to learn lessons the hard way.

I just hope these amazing women, one in particular, finds herself sooner

rather than later because as woman we deserve the world. 

My spiritual self lives within God, 

which to me goes with positive energy.

I believe the for me HE is my higher power. 

He has shown me that everything happens for a reason, 

and that there is always happiness within him.

But i had to find it within myself before I could even see it within him.

So I challenge you this week, 

dedicate one night to yourself.

Do something for you.

Stop being a mother or a father, a care take,

a work-a-holic or even an alcoholic for just one night.

And do something to make your self happy.

Until Next time ; 

Peace, LOve & Happiness 

The Girl Behind The Blog

 Myself. 

To me there is not much to say. 

I should probably have someone else write this portion for me. 

Someone who knows me well, or even better than myself. 

That selection wouldn't be hard to make I can only count my true friends on one hand,

 one is my mother & the other my fiance. 

I feel that the people you surround yourself with 

are the best description of who you are. 

So lets start there. 

I will begin with my mother. 

You would call her Barb if you knew her personally.

She is my hero.

 Most people say that, I actually mean it.

From day one, literally 

she has dedicated her life to me & making it worth living. 

Not because she had to, because she wanted to.

I am not one myself, but I know for a fact once you are a mother or a father 

life as you know it changes.

 It revolves around your child. And she has never failed at that.

My memories with her are as early as dancing on the coffee table with a hairbrush mic in my hand

screaming the lyrics to any garth brooks song

 on surround sound before bed, trying to take both our minds;

hers more than mine, off the fact that it was almost 10 pm and my father still wasnt home.

He was probably at who knows what bar, doing who knows what, with who knows who.

To driving me all over 3-4 times a week to cheerleading events, 

& even more recent 

just calling each other to talk for 30 mins to catch up on the past week

since I no longer live under her roof.

She is my best friend. She always did what was best for us, for me.

I want to be the mom she was to me someday.

She , like everyone made mistakes and lived another lifestlye in her younger years

she was always open with me & told me her stories from the start

which made her the most amazing part of my life. 

She molded me into the open, 

understanding, listening, non-judgemental person I am today.

As for my fiance, Levi - yes like the jeans - goes. He is also my best friend. 

But in a different way. 

There are so many kinds of love in this world. & he almost fufills them all for me.

He is such a care taker, which one would have to be- to be a nurse. 

He is the most responsible person I know and has a very level head on his shoulders.

Though we met only over a year ago on a dating website,

I speak for the both of us when I say we feel like we have known each other are entire life. 

I could go on for hours with how we feel about one another;

but that is for us to know only.

Were engaged & getting married this Septmember, that tells you enough.

[[ 9.10.11 ]]

I like to think someday I will be these two people combined.

I would call it "near perfection".

Since nothing on this earth is perfect.

There are many layers to me. 

Some, most people never see.

I like it that way, I perfer it that way. 

But the layers I will allow you to read 

arent what you would expect if you saw me.

First impessions people have of me, 

always make me giggle, just a little.

The are typical, stero typical that is.

Blonde hair, blue eyes, perky, 

always smiling, bubly bimbo;

is what I get most of.

Yes that may be my hair & eye color. 

And I love my teeth that my parents paid thousands of

dollars to have straighten, 

so i am going to show them off,

 besides I have no reason not to smile.

[[ I'm alive. ]]

-- I'm healthy. -- 

*I'm happy & i actually know what that word even means.*

I dont drink.

I wont party.

I hate bars, clubs, or anywhere that requires and I.D.

I love my apartment, my bed, my dvr, my mac book, texting, 

my cat named Miley- yes after cyrus. - I love to stay at home, alone & read or watch movies 

on netflix. I have started to write probably ten books in my life & haven't finished a single one.

Therefore my purpose of this blog is to get all of those mini books into the world somehow.

This is my new escape. I believe everyone should have one.

As much as this blog is mine, its not about me.

It's about you, my readers, my followers.

I am not going to write daily. 

I am not going to document everything I do each day 

from what I eat to who I see & what I thought. 

I'm going after the carrie bradshaw, minus all the sex talk.

I want to inspire.

Growing up in the Paul Mitchell Cosmetology world

the word insprie is used ofetn. They are always asking us

"What inspires you?" and trying to get us to move toward & focus on a goal

to acheive. Therefore I can't inspire those whom I dont know, 

or know what they need from me.

So tell me, What inspires you ?